Saturday, January 4, 2014

Open & free

Open communication with your spouse is one way to keep your marriage surviving & thriving. Even when the words you say are humiliating and reveal your vulnerability, your humanity and frailty. December was a difficult month for me, both emotionally & spiritually. I tried to be strong and hid my inner turmoil from my husband. I didn't want to drag him down with me... I was hurting & didn't feel like discussing it, with anyone. I thought I was protecting him, however instead I only created tension and disunity in our marriage. There were days he probably thought I despised him because of the great despair I held hidden in my mind. I finally had a breaking point, and I shared my calamities with my best friends & sisters in Christ. They lavished love, scriptures and admonishment! I was beseeched to confess everything to my husband. Every struggle needed to be voiced to my closest companion; nothing is to be hidden from your mate. I am so blessed to have godly girls in my life! Women who point me to Jesus AND my husband :) 

Two things I have learned.... Be vulnerable and humiliatingly honest & transparent with my husband. The second, the friends you keep can make the difference between your-well being or your demise.